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You Are Your Own Enemy

Are you prone to arguments? Do you feel you are always in conflict with people? Do you ever feel like you have an issue to pick with everyone? What is at the root of most arguments and quarrels?

James says it’s our desires that lay the foundations for most of our conflicts.

James 4:1
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?

Selfishness can find itself as the source of a majority of our arguments. Do you find yourself always having to be right? Are there just as many times that you can acknowledge you were wrong and tell someone you were?

A wise man once said “When Bob has a problem with everyone, Bob’s the problem.” And most of the time the problem with Bob is he’s selfish.

The next time you find yourself in a heated discussion, ask yourself, “Am I arguing for the sake of winning the argument, or am I arguing for the sake of a value?”

Remember to pick your battles because you can be your own enemy.